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'I mistakenly gave my son the wrong name and my family say it'll ruin his life'


A mum says her own family have branded her “cruel” after she gave her son the wrong name by mistake – and now she is torn over what to do.

She explains that she had been unaware she was pregnant until very close to the labour, and she didn’t tell the father at the time as he was dealing with a difficult family situation and didn’t want to add to his worry.

The mum also kept the news from her parents through fear they would be disappointed, and says she had not even given the baby’s name consideration as she found it stressful to deal with the pregnancy without a support system in place.

When the time came, she went through a very difficult labour and was hugely appreciative of the doctor who helped her through it, deciding she would name her son after the woman by using a variant such as “Christina to Christian”.

The mum wrote: “Her name was Audrey, and I distinctly remembered that – although it’s less common – Audrey can be used as a boy’s name, and I actually thought it was very cute, so that’s what I named my son.



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The mum doesn’t know what to do now (stock image)

“When I broke the news about my pregnancy to my parents, they were actually very happy they got a beautiful little boy, but they told me that giving him a girl’s name is cruel.

“I told them it was a less known fact, but Audrey can be a boy’s name. We looked it up, and apparently I was thinking of Aubrey.

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“I feel like an idiot.

“Now that my boyfriend and I are in a relationship and raising Audrey together, he tells me that he loves the name. He says it’s stupid that one letter can change the gender of the name and says it’s just a bunch of letters anyway and has no inherent gender. He says he can’t picture him as anything but Audrey.

“Reactions from friends are very mixed, but many are telling me we’re preemptively ruining Audrey’s life.”

After asking for advice on Reddit on what they should do, people came forward in support, pointing out that Audrey is often used for both boys and girls.

One wrote: “If you both like the name, keep it. You named him for a very sweet reason to honour someone. If others have an issue with it, that’s their problem, not yours.

A second said: “Audrey has been used as a boy’s name before, and it’s just not a big deal. Congrats on your lovely son.”

But another issued a warning, commenting: “This kid is in for a world of pain. In the UK Audrey is an old woman’s name. He would get ripped to shreds and it’s very sad but just the truth. May as well have named him Ethel or Rita.”

And someone else added: “While I agree that the convention of gendered names is a silly one, it doesn’t make it not a thing. You are setting up your son for being bullied and teased. You made a mistake, don’t double down on it.”

What do you think she should do? Let us know in the comments.

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