Are you struggling to orgasm? Every body is different which means some women may experience an orgasm, while others might not.
But there’s no need to worry as there are plenty of ways to increase chances of reaching the big-O.
The best way to have an orgasm is to not think about them as a goal and to focus on the sexual pleasure.
As today is National Orgasm Day, we spoke to Silva Neves, a We-Vibe sexpert, to reveal her tips.
“The brain is a great sex organ”
Silva Neves
She told Daily Star Online: “If you focus on your erogenous zones and focus on sexual pleasure, the orgasm will be easier to come.
“If you focus on achieving an orgasm, it will be much harder to get there. The brain is a great sex organ, so it is important for women to check what is in their erotic mind.
“Being comfortable with your body is important too. Many women don’t like their body because of the perfect body image that we often see in the media.
“Enjoy your body, touch your body all over, have a look at your vulva in a mirror, learn to love, both with care, kindness and lust.
“Be proud of your sexuality. Give yourself some quality sexual time on your own or with a partner you feel safe with.”
ORGASM TIPS: Women struggling to climax could benefit from these tips (Pic: GETTY)
According to Silva, who is also a sex therapist, women need to explore what is in their erotic mind.
What are the sexual fantasies that turn you on a lot?
Silva claims these fantasies don’t have to be anything that you’re interested in doing for real, but they’re a good way to feel aroused.
She explained: “Learn how your body responds. What are the best ingredients that make you climax?
“Is it having your breasts touched? Is it feeling pleasure out of giving pleasure to your partner? It is a particular garment that you wear or a particular role play?”
She continued: “Be mindful of your lifestyle in order to be sexual, enjoy yourself, try different sex toys and different ways to have sex.
“Sex is supposed to fun and an adventure either on your own or with your partner. There are many different ways you can have a satisfying sex life and good orgasms.
“Take your time to explore the sexual pleasure of your body and your mind.”
She also revealed women who are fortunate to orgasm can have different types of orgasms during sexual play.
SEX: Some women have great intercourse without the orgasm (Pic: GETTY)
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Silvia concluded: “Some women will find it easier to have clitoral orgasms while other women would reach a vaginal orgasm more easily.
“Some women have orgasms without any touch at all, but with the sheer turn-on of giving pleasure to their partner.
“Many women don’t experience orgasms with intercourse alone, but some love it if they stimulate their clitoris at the same time.
“Some women need a long foreplay and can orgasm with oral sex mostly. Some women report ‘great sex’ without having an orgasm, which is important to note too: reaching an orgasm is not necessarily the gold standard of sex.
“And some women need to be turned on with their mind: role play, sexy words, fantasies, and so on.”
