After struggling to come to terms with my sexuality (I have been in therapy three times in the course of 10 years), I became increasingly disillusioned with gay dating through apps and clubs.
I thought I had finally found a mature relationship, and for once I didn’t feel shame inside, but warmth and honesty with someone. But communication broke down between us and the relationship disintegrated.
I am at an age where I am beginning to consider a serious career and having a family one day – but I worry that any healthy potential partner will reject me.
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