When you think of weddings, you probably think of elegance, romance and fancy dress.
It’s easy to get hung up on these things when planning the perfect day, but one bride may have taken this too far and risks ruining everything because of it.
A groom-to-be has turned to social media to confess his struggles after learning that his fiancée hasn’t invited his sister to their special day – and won’t let her attend.
The unnamed man explained that his younger sister is severely disabled and is “prone to meltdowns” and because of this, his bride is worried she will “ruin” the wedding.
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In a post on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum, he wrote: “I am marrying the love of my life next week, but we are unable to agree on something very important.
“My sister is 20-years-old and severely mentally handicapped. I won’t sugarcoat it: She screams and makes loud noises, she stims and she’s very prone to meltdowns especially in loud/crowded situations… However I love my sister to death and I would really like for her to be there when we get married.
“My fiancée loves my sister too but she is adamant that my sister does NOT attend our wedding. My sister will 100 percent be loud and distracting during the ceremony and reception, which isn’t her fault.
“My fiancée doesn’t want to deal with a potential meltdown and says that it would ‘ruin our special day’.”
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The groom goes on to admit that it’s very likely his sister will cause a scene on the day if she attends and it will probably last around half an hour.
He adds that he thinks his partner is being selfish not inviting his sister and that his parents are also angry about her decision.
“We have been arguing about this and have come close to calling it all off. I need perspective, Am I the a**hole for insisting my sister comes?”
More than 300 people took the time to share their thoughts on the couple’s predicament, with many agreeing that both of them were in the wrong.
One person said: “It is wonderful that you want your sister there, but it sounds like it would be really rough on her. Maybe you could schedule a private lunch for just the three of you.”
“It feels like he fiancée doesn’t want the sister to go for the wrong reasons. And he wants his sister to come for the wrong reasons too. Should definitely compromise,” said another.
A third person wrote: “I would probably arrange for her to have a private viewing of it. Maybe stream it to her. That way she can watch and she won’t be overly stimulated.”
Someone else added: “Does your sister want to be there? I’m on the autism spectrum and I’ve had my fair share of meltdowns and they’re horrible.
“It’s painful and stressful, it’s literally being so overwhelmed and stressed and in mental pain that you can’t handle existing in the space you’re in anymore.
“Insisting on your sister’s presence when you know it’ll cause her unneeded distress is just selfish. she may not want to go to your wedding. You need to see what she wants and go from there.”
