My colleague's BO is so bad it makes me gag. Should I tell them?

Someone new has just started in my office. We are going to be working closely together. He is really lovely, but he has very bad BO. The other day I had to shift away from him during a meeting because the smell was making me gag. I’m worried if I tell him it will make things awkward and I don’t want to upset him. Do I talk to him or try to sit as far from him as possible?

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