TIPS: Elysia Downings has revealed how you can be more dominant in the bedroom (Pic: COURTESY OF ELYSIA DOWNINGS)
It’s always important to change it up during sex otherwise people will start to get bored.
If you feel like mixing it up and fancy being more dominant in bed, there are ways to boost your sex life.
So here’s how you can increase your libido – according to a dominatrix.
In an interview with Daily Star Online, Elysia Downings revealed the benefits of becoming more dominant in the bedroom.
“If you’re used to being submissive, stepping into a new sexual role can be a real eye opener”
Elysia Downings
The 28-year-old said: “If you’re used to being submissive, stepping into a new sexual role can be a real eye opener.
“Dirty talk and positive affirmations are really helpful to boost a partner’s performance.
“Tell your partner how much you’re enjoying them and how great they look and feel.
“That reassurance can instantly diminish any insecurity they have, increase their confidence, turn them on and it’s going to bring them back into the present moment which is really important.”
BEAUTY: The 28-year-old also revealed the benefits of taking charge in the bedroom (Pic: COURTESY OF ELYSIA DOWNINGS)
Elysia, who is a cam girl for Off The Record, also claimed that communication is key and recommended Brits to talk to their partners.
She added: “When there is power play involved, it’s especially important that both of you are on the same wave length.
“Ask your partner directly what they enjoy and share your fantasies and desires with each other.”
And if you’re a beginner with BDSM, Elysia – who owns her own lingerie boutique Betsy Boudoir – has revealed her one tip.
“You can watch porn to get an idea of what you might enjoy,” she explained.
The cam girl added: “For example, pain may not be your idea of pleasure, but you could try some light spanking and see how it feels.
“BDSM should be enjoyable, don’t do anything out of your comfort zone but be open to trying new things.”
EXPERT: The cam girl also claimed communication is key (Pic: COURTESY OF ELYSIA DOWNINGS)
Here are Elysia’s three tips to becoming more dominant in the bedroom:
1. Take control: Be the one to initiate the position you’re going to be in and decide exactly what happens during sex
2. Use props: Handcuffs, restrains and blindfolds are a great way to spice things up
3. Speak your mind: Tell your partner exactly what you want them to do and don’t hold back
