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Women want their ideal partner to have an average penis, not a big one – why?


Research reveals women would rather their partner had an average size penis than a big one (Picture: Getty/Metro.co.uk)

Bigger isn’t always better.

In fact, bigger can be worse.

That’s backed up by new research from Clue, which not only revealed that kindness is the most important thing women look for in a partner, but also that the majority of straight women would prefer a male partner to have an average sized penis, rather than a massive penis.

This might surprise a lot of men who’ve long assumed that the monster schlongs you see in porn must be the ideal.

Not so, men. The research found that while women weren’t especially likely to mention penis size in their desired attributes, when they did they tended to fancy an average sized one – an ‘average penis’ came up in 8% of the qualities listed as the most important, while ‘big penis’ was mentioned in 3% of instances.

FYI, a small penis was mentioned less than 1% of the times, so it’s not that women like things that are cute and miniature, but that average is better than big.

But why?

It seems to come down to physical sensation, discomfort, and how a man’s perception of his penis size might influence his sexual skills.

It’s often assumed that if a man has a big penis, he won’t try as hard, while someone who’s insecure about his average or smaller penis will ‘make up’ for a lack of girth and length with fun techniques and extra foreplay.

Plus, a big penis can very easily be too big, making parts of sex difficult. Giving head to someone with a massive dick is a real choking hazard, for example, while penetration can leave you sore.

‘Too big a penis actually hurts in many cases, and it’s harder to be versatile with positions and thrusting depth,’ Gemma*, 25, tells Metro.co.uk.

‘Also, in past experience, I’ve found that guys with huge dicks think it gives them a free pass not to participate in foreplay and just go straight to penetration.’

Lacey* agrees: ‘I’d prefer normal because my vagina is only like 4-5 inches deep, so there’s not a lot of benefit in a huge cock.

‘I do like a decent girth, but honestly in my experience men who are average tend to have fewer hang ups about it, but also not be lazy in bed.’

A penis that’s too big can cause pain and discomfort (Picture: Getty/Metro.co.uk)

That’s important to mention – while men tend to talk about penis size in terms of length, circumference can be more important. But again, it’s possible to be too big.

‘I had sex with a guy who had what I’d describe as a Coke can,’ says Amelia, 28. ‘It sounds great in theory but it was absolutely awful.

‘It was so difficult to get it inside, so every time we had sex there was this awkward bit where we had to check if I was relaxed enough to get him in, then try more foreplay for five minutes, then check again, then foreplay, then check again.

‘Even lubed up it made me wince, and obviously anal was out of the question. He said his penis had caused genuine problems with dating – when he was in his teens and trying to have sex for the first time with his girlfriend, he just wouldn’t fit.

‘He never complained about his penis, just told me that story when I asked if he’d had problems before. I can’t imagine him getting much sympathy if he went to his friends and said his penis was too big.’

When asked about blowjobs, Amelia responses with a simple ‘nope, nope, nope’.

A big penis may be a lovely idea in theory, and it may make a man feel especially manly to know he’s packing something huge in his pants, but it can make sex pretty challenging.

And when the person who experiences the pain and challenges of a big penis is the woman, it makes sense that while men may think a big penis is great, women would far prefer a more average pecker.

Don’t be too miserable if you’re cursed with a giant dick, though.

As we said, penis size really isn’t very high on women’s priority lists. Kindness, supportiveness, intelligence, education, and confidence are the big hitters, according to that Clue research, and in terms of physical stuff an attractive smile and great eyes are considered more important.

Plus, there’s one concern about a massive member you can easily rectify.

While the stereotype goes that men with big penises don’t bother with foreplay or any fun stuff, it’s pretty simple to break that myth. It doesn’t matter how big you are – if you’re prioritizing your sexual partner’s pleasure, you’re doing brilliantly.

*Names have been changed.

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