WHEN kids come into the mix, women are often forced to juggle work and a home life, with many taking time off or quitting for good.
But one young mum-of-two had other plans and demanded her boyfriend pay her a monthly allowance or a $10k (£7,500) lump sum if it meant quitting her job to be a stay-at-home mum.
The woman, believed to be from the US, posted on Redddit and insisted that her partner earned a great deal more than her and that she has no real need to work.
Despite this, she explained that she doesn’t want to give up her job entirely in case they ever broke up which would leave her financially vulnerable.
She wrote: “My boyfriend and I have two kids and have been together for a number of years, I have always worked apart from when on maternity leave.
“We are considering a third and talking about what that would mean as the others are well out of the baby/toddler stage.”
She continued: “He makes five times what I do and we could easily afford for me not to work but I don’t want to lose the independence, especially as we aren’t married.
“I know several different women who were stay-at-home mothers for years who then struggled to survive when their relationships ended because they were blindsided and didn’t have money or jobs to fall back on.”
Since the couple aren’t married, she said she’d be “basically entitled to nothing” so it was important for her to have a back up plan.
For this reason, she explained that she would only consider giving up her job if her partner paid her a reasonable amount – but he didn’t take well to the condition.
He said I’m being ridiculous and he’s not even going to entertain the thought of rewarding my distrust.
She concluded: “He said I’m being ridiculous and he’s not even going to entertain the thought of rewarding my distrust, so I said fine if baby happens I return to work after maternity leave like before”.
She asked for advice on what she should do and hundreds were in support of her “reasonable” demands, saying she was “smart” to look after herself financially.
One person posted: “Since you’re not married which would give you equal right to joint assets, you have to think a little differently than a married woman in a similar situation would.”
Another agreed, saying: “Him asking to give up your means of income without the security of being married puts you in a very potentially vulnerable spot.
“And sure, it could all turn out fine… but it could also turn out in disaster for you if you and he ever split up, and you would have very little recourse.”
Many even said they had friends who have suffered in the past as a result of this very scenario, and so insisted she was in the right for asking.
“My friend was not-married to a man for 25 years,” one woman wrote.
“She stayed at home and raised their kids. He then went behind her back, met another woman, and married her.
“My friend can’t get alimony because they weren’t legally married. She’s not even sure if she has rights to any of their house that she’s living in. She has no job skills. She was 18 when she met him.”
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