Precisely five hours and 16 minutes after joining Instagram Oct. 15, Jennifer Aniston had reached one million followers. An impressive feat and a new record, besting none other than Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, but she was more focused on the ones that hadn’t subscribed.
Because she had already tapped ex-husband Justin Theroux, one of 179 accounts she currently follows, it was easy to notice he hadn’t responded in kind. “She actually texted me,” the actor revealed to Entertainment Tonight. “She said, ‘You haven’t followed me,’ and I said, ‘Of course I followed you!’ and she’s like, ‘No you haven’t!” The Lady and the Tramp actor soon deduced that the mix-up was due to the crash Aniston when eager fans scrambled to see what she would add to the platform. “I realized I was one of the people caught in the glitch,” he continued. “So I had followed, commented…”
And he did so again, his “Woot woot! #first” intended to be tongue-in-cheek “because I was, like, the 40-trillionth-billionth person to comment,” he told Access Hollywood, “and I think she had only been on a couple hours.”
He continues to comment on successive posts, so safe to say they really meant it when they said they looked forward “to continuing our cherished friendship.”
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With the entertainment industry’s insular nature, navigating a relationship in Hollywood is a bit like dating a coworker. You’re probably going to have to keep working together—and there’s no HR department to intervene.
That’s quite literally the case for many former pairs, movie and television sets being hot beds for romance and the most likely place for celebrities to meet a mate, right ahead of a publicist set-up. And while for most people, spending their days face-to-face with a person who just torpedoed their heart seems as traumatic as pulling off their fingernails, celebrities do it on the regular, often continuing an onscreen romance long after the love has fizzled IRL.
Penn Badgley noted on Watch What Happens Live in 2015 that after he and Gossip Girl paramour Blake Lively split they were “consummately professional, to be honest,” as they continued to work together for another two years. “I think we should both pat ourselves on the back for getting through it—because, you know, anything is complicated in that way, and we handled it.”
Kaley Cuoco and Johnny Galecki did more than just handle it. For some nine seasons after ending a two-year relationship that was so quiet no one really knew it was happening, the pair continued to act as partners, and then husband and wife, on Big Bang Theory.
The key, Galecki shared on The View, was “massive doses of mutual love and respect.” Convincingly acting out a love that no longer exists isn’t easy, he continued, “but with those two ingredients, pretty much anything is possible.” Though the show has since wrapped, the two remain tight, Galecki even turning up at Cuoco’s 2018 vows to Karl Cook. As he put it, “We’re dear, dear friends.”
Even if they’re not actually coworkers, it’s fairly inevitable that famous exes will cross paths at some point, except instead of it being at a coffee shop while wearing their rattiest sweats like us normals, it’ll be on a red carpet with dozens of cameras trained on them to capture the moment. And if they don’t at least make the effort to say hello, everyone will be talking about how they avoided each other, so best to just engage in a bit of small talk and get on with it. At least they’re dressed for the occasion.
And if the relationship progressed far enough along that kids were involved, well, that’s another layer of careful communicating that Hollywood exes tend to ace. Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin and Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are the gold standards, but there are plenty of others in their conscious uncoupling club.
Nothing like knowing the whole world is watching to motivate healthy coparenting.
“We said, ‘We need to try to create something for the kids where they feel like they’re gaining something rather than losing something,'” Kate Hudson told Allure in 2015 of continuing to hang—and even vacation—with former fiancé Matt Bellamy, dad to her middle child, 8-year-old Bingham. “Kids just want to see their parents be cool. Everybody’s cool; everybody’s good.”
And perhaps that’s part of it too. On the whole, celebrities tend to be a little more suave, a bit more urbane—or at least really good at acting that way. So in honor of today’s Natinoal Text Your Ex Day (a holiday you should likely skip unless you’re really, truly on good terms) check out these stars who seamlessly made the transition from partner to pal with nary a headline suggesting otherwise.
Nina Dobrev, Ian Somerhalder & Nikki Reed
Nina and Ian may have called it quits in 2013 after three years of dating, but they’ve remained close friends since then. In 2014, the Vampire Diaries star started dating Nikki and tied the knot later that year. Naturally, Dobrev befriended the Twilight actress.
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Gwyneth Paltrow & Chris Martin
After the spouses of 10 years announced they separated in March 2014, they headed to the Bahamas for a family vacation with their two kids, Apple and Moses.
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Lady Gaga & Taylor Kinney
The two called it quits in July 2016 after five years together. The singer said on SiriusXM’s The Howard Stern Show the following October she’s “very close” to Kinney, adding, “He’s been my lover and a friend for so long,” she said. “We love each other. That’s it.”
Two months later, shetugged at the heartstrings of scores of fans when she posted on her Instagram page a photo of her mom with her ex at an event for her charity the Born This Way Foundation.
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Kate Hudson & Matt Bellamy
Despite ending their engagement in December 2014, the former couple continued to celebrate the holidays together in Aspen, Colo.
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Mindy Kaling & B.J. Novak
They dated on and off while filming The Office, in which they played on-again, off-again couple Kelly Kapoor and Ryan Howard.
They remained friends after the series ended and even continued to work together after The Office; Novak played recurring character Jamie on Kaling’s show The Mindy Project.
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Hilary Duff & Mike Comrie
The exes have remained BFFS since their Jan. 2014 split. They have been seen enjoying a lot of each other’s company as of late—here they attend the Coachella Music Festival.
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Amber Rose & Wiz Khalifa
The two broke up in 2014 and share legal and physical custody of their son, Sebastian “Bash” Taylor Thomaz. The former couple remains so close that she had even expressed interest in expanding their family.
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Miranda Kerr & Orlando Bloom
The former couple have been spotted out and about together with their son Flynn multiple times after splitting up in 2013.
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Kate Bosworth & Orlando Bloom
They might have called it quits in 2006, but these two let bygones be bygones at the Dior Homme Cocktail Reception.
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Ashlee Simpson & Pete Wentz
The exes have no trouble coparenting their son, Bronx, after finalizing their divorce back in 2011. The Fall Out Boy star has even said his former wife is “an awesome mom.”
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Miley Cyrus & Nick Jonas
The JoBro musician has said he’s “really friendly” with his ex. “We’ve got a good relationship.”
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Michael C. Hall & Jennifer Carpenter
The Dexter costars finalized their divorce in Dec. 2011, but they have no trouble working amicably onscreen.
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Wilmer Valderrama & Demi Lovato
After attending the Topshop & Topman Los Angeles party at The Grove earlier in the day, the on-again, off-again couple enjoyed a romantic dinner on Valentine’s Day.
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Bruce Willis & Demi Moore
As parents to 24-year-old Rumer Willis, the former couple has always stayed friendly and close. As Moore recovered from her rough patch in 2012, The Sixth Sense actor made time to visit his ex.
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Charlie Sheen & Denise Richards
Despite their divorce in 2005, the former couple continues to define the term friendly exes. Whether kissing as costars or throwing birthday parties together as parents, the two always seem to get along.
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Jennifer Lopez & Marc Anthony
The former couple appears to share no hard feelings towards each other. After their separation, the two continued to promote their Latin talent show, Q’Viva!. The two have moved on with new significant others but continue to coparent.
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Courteney Cox & David Arquette
The Cougar Town star has nothing but nice things to say about her ex. “He’s my best friend and we’ve both grown and changed,” the actress recently told Ellen DeGeneres.
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Cameron Diaz & Justin Timberlake
Their real life romance may have fizzled in 2007. However, that doesn’t mean the two couldn’t heat up the screen in the 2011 movie, Bad Teacher.
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Reese Witherspoon & Ryan Phillippe
Even though they arrived separately, the friendly exes cheered on their son, Deacon, at a Brentwood, Calif., soccer game together. The actress’ husband, Jim Toth, also joined the cheering section.
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Peter Facinelli & Jennie Garth
The Twilight star and his ex, who were married for 11 years and have three children together, make sure to put family first.
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Will Arnett & Amy Poehler
Despite a surprise separation in September 2012, the couple decided to put on a united front for their children.