Parenting

Professional matchmaker is looking for a platonic partner to have a baby with


Rachel wants to find a co-parent to have a baby with (Picture: SWNS/Getty)

A matchmaker is looking for a platonic partner to have a child with as she embraces a new co-parenting trend where singles link up to have kids with no romance involved.

Rachel Russo, 36, has not ruled out finding the one and having a baby the traditional way, but currently she is exploring other options to becoming a mother.

The matchmaker, who spent 15 years engineering happy couples, has signed up for websites that help not only match romantic partners but platonic co-parents and sperm/egg donors as well.

Rachel, from New Jersey, said that social distancing and dating apps filled with people looking for casual relationships, make finding someone on the same page difficult.

She said: ‘Most single men don’t want to talk about having babies on the first dates, but if that’s a priority to women, I’m doing what I would advise any woman to do.

‘The ideal situation would be the happily ever after romantic relationship, but I’m about equally comfortable with being a single mum as I am with being a co-parent.’

She signed up to a site that partners people up with potential co-parents (Picture: Rachel Russo / SWNS)

Rachel says the most important part of the whole process is the research.

‘I’ve read books on co-parenting and on the single mother path. I’ve had consultations on fertility and seen spiritual doctors to find any romantic blocks and blocks on being a single mother,’ she said.

‘With being a single mum, you have 100% of the emotions and financial responsibility and going through the process yourself.

‘Co-parenting is like a ready-made family, so the dad is there already from day one for the baby.’

One of the sites potential parents are using is co-parenting site Modamily.

While there are co-parents on the site who find a romantic spark and opt for the old fashioned way of having children, platonic partners often choose either home insemination or IVF.

Like other dating sites, users set up profiles on Modamily and are matched to people with similar interests and timelines for having children.

Modamily also works with donor and surrogacy agencies to help users looking to go that route navigate the process.

The founder and CEO of co-parenting site Modamily, Ivan Fatovic, said: ‘I think many people that go on are exploring their options.’

Ivan Fatovic-founder & CEO of Modamily (Picture: Modamily / SWNS)

Rachel said it can be difficult to differentiate between men who are serious about becoming co-parents and those who are just lonely and looking for a distraction.

‘I think the challenges like with any site, especially during the pandemic, is who’s really serious and who’s just kind of bored, lonely, isolated and wanting someone to talk to, but not necessarily serious,’ Rachel said.

She has met someone during her six months on the site, but they haven’t been able to meet in person due to the pandemic.

They are hoping to change that soon.

Rachel added: ‘He’s looking for a romantic relationship and to have a baby and fast track that.

‘Now that our area is reopening we’re probably going to be meeting very soon.’

Despite its unconventional aspects, Rachel finds strength in the process of exploring different options for having children.

‘It’s kind of empowering because I can do something towards my goal of creating a family from the comfort of my own home.

‘People shouldn’t rush into decisions, they should talk and if they’re aligned and have the same goals and timeline for having a child they should meet and that’s how I’m approaching it.’

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