A mum has decided to “not go mad” on Christmas presents for her children this year as they never appreciate what they’ve got – but she thinks she’s being a “bad mum”
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Christmas is often referred to as a time of giving, but that doesn’t mean the holiday should be all about spending money on presents.
One mum on Mumsnet has said she’s so tired of “wasting money” on gifts that her three kids “don’t appreciate” that this year she’s severely cutting back on the number of presents under the tree – but she’s worried that doing so will make her a “bad mum”.
She wrote: “Usually we go mad and buy the kids loads for Christmas. They always have everything they want and more – I will admit they are spoilt!
“This year, they all have their main presents and then my husband and I have agreed to buy a couple of smaller presents. We are going to try and keep it to a £150 budget for each child for the other bits after the main present.
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“Obviously people know how expensive everything is, so they won’t have a pile like normal. I feel like I am being a bad mum because we could afford to spend more.”
The mum-of-three then said her kids – who are aged 10, nine, and six – are all believers in Father Christmas, so they don’t understand where their presents really come from.
She added: “I am sick to death of them just throwing things in a cupboard and it never seeing the light of day again. We just waste money because it’s Christmas and we feel we should!
“The children don’t appreciate it and don’t play with their presents. They’re all believers so obviously we don’t get the credit for the gifts either.”
And fellow Mumsnet users were in agreement that the mum shouldn’t be splashing out on presents her children won’t get any use out of.
One person wrote: “Why would you want to buy more for children who don’t appreciate anything? I would make sure this year that they learn that lesson.
“Maybe pick out some small gifts together for a charity that give to disadvantaged children and explain to them how lucky they are to have a family that are able to give them a lovely Christmas.”
While another said: “What I would do in this situation is maybe prepare them for less. I’d be the same worried they would be disappointed, so you need to come with either the proper reason or a made up one. If they know to expect less than usual, then I would doubt they will be disappointed.”
And a third posted: “So you’re currently spending a fortune each on them and they think Santa brings it all? No wonder they’re ungrateful.
“But no, it’s not unreasonable to reduce what you buy so you’re not just buying for the sake of it.”
Others sympathised with the mum, with one user stating they were also struggling with the “commercial” side of Christmas.
They said: “I’m in the same boat. My boys are always very grateful but really, they have more than they can possibly need, and I’m just bored of the whole thing.
“I just want to start scaling down the effort I have always put into Christmas. I’m not sure who I’m doing it for anymore. I just want to have a nice relaxing time without the ridiculous commercialism.”
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