After almost seven years together, the woman I was engaged to abruptly left me for another man. I thought we were happy and understood each other. We lived together in New York and had always talked about returning to California, where we are from.
I am in my late 30s, and don’t know how I will be able to trust someone new after being betrayed so badly. I can’t seem to rid myself of feelings of humiliation and abandonment. How do you let go of the past and the planned future you had with someone?
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