A MOTHER has revealed that she’s putting her severely disabled son into care so she can “forget he exists”.
The woman says she’s “not sorry” about her decision, calling the seven-year-old “nothing”.
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The woman told her story on Reddit yesterday, explaining that she’s also mum to a 12-year-old boy.
Her husband passed away in a work accident three years ago, although she states that she “fully believes he killed himself because of their younger son”.
She writes: “We were told when I was pregnant that [my son] would have Down’s syndrome. We could handle that. Even if it was severe. It turned out he has a chromosome deletion.
“He’ll never be anything more than he is now or has ever been. And what he is, is nothing.”
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She continues: “He doesn’t appear to have any awareness and never has. His eyes are locked in one position, he doesn’t respond to noise, touch or pain. He is capable of nothing.
“He is tube fed and on oxygen. He is in diapers and will be forever. He makes no sounds, no attempts to communicate. He never even really cried as a baby.
“I didn’t get an imperfect child. I didn’t get a child. I don’t love him. He doesn’t have any personality, there is nothing to love. And yet I’m responsible for him.”
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The woman goes on to explain that her son is also “medically fragile”, and that her older child has “suffered” because of the younger boy’s “need for care and appointments”.
She writes: “And so he’s leaving our home on the 29th. I feel excited and relieved and then guilty because I know we’ll be happier with him gone.
“I just want to never think of him again and I’m not sorry. And for that, I’m sorry.”
She also states: “I can’t tell anyone this, even my therapist.”
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Unsurprisingly, the post has received thousands of comments.
One person wrote: “I’m sorry for you because you are obviously having a hard time and emotionally at the end of your rope, which is why you’re venting here.
“I think you’ll get lots of hate for posting this, however, that’s the last thing you need. You’re being honest. You can’t handle this.
“Putting the child in a residential facility may be the right thing to do for your family, for him as well as for you and your other son. You are not harming him.”
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Another said: “I hope a lot of your anger fades with time. But I don’t think your actions are wrong.
“Honestly it sounds like the worst part is that you’ve waited too long. Putting him in a home is best for everyone. Make sure he gets the care he needs.”
A number of others suggested that she find a new therapist, with one message reading: “If you feel you cannot speak with yours, please go seek out a new one.”
Families with disabled children can seek support from Contact. Call their free helpline on 0808 808 3555.
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