No one is going to argue that relocating with a toddler is an incredibly stressful scenario to have to deal with.
Throw in the fact you’re living with relatives as an interim measure and doing the lion’s share of the childcare, and it’s enough to make your eye twitch.
One mum is currently living this reality – and one unexpected drawback has emerged.
She’s only managing to shower every three days.
The situation was made altogether worse recently by her husband’s refusal to look after their 16 month-old so she could jump in the shower .
Setting the scene on Reddit , she writes: “We just moved and are staying with family while we are house hunting.
“Usually I would put my son in his pack and play outside of the bathroom with the door open so I can keep an eye on him while I shower. I can’t do that here because it’s a house full of family and it wouldn’t be appropriate.
My husband is here for the weekend, he’s been staying close to his job 65 miles away. We both need to shower. I’ve been taking showers every three days strictly because it’s so inconvenient for me to shower.
“I always have to ask a family member to watch our son while I shower. They’re happy to help but I know they’re busy too so I just feel bad no matter what having to ask for help and needing the help.”
The mum has tried to get up even earlier so she can shower, but her son normally wakes up half way through and needs attention.
Sounds not great, right?
Then at the weekend when her husband was home, he announced he was going to shower immediately afterwards and then go get a haircut.
She continued: “I told him I had been planning on showering after lunch too, I asked if I could shower first, then him, then he can leave for his haircut. He declined that.
“I then asked if I could shower after him and he declined that and said I’ll have to wait to shower once he gets back from getting his haircut.
“Keep in mind I have to ask for his help and go with whatever he offers because one of us has to watch our son while the other one showers.”
Describing his behaviour as “concerning” and adding that she’s (understandably) “p****d off” she says: “He never offers to just watch his own son so I can do the basics, like I stated before.
“But when he needs to shower he gets to no questions asked.
“And now he’s relying on our family to help me out but I feel like since he’s in town right now, he should be helping me parent our kid and we shouldn’t expect others to help if both of us are here.
Heartbreakingly, she adds: “I feel my needs are belittled as a human, I’m not asking for a spa day. I just needed him to watch our son for a few minutes while I shower.”
As one angry response went: “This reminds me of fathers I have heard say ‘I have to babysit my kid tonight. dude it’s your f*****g kid, it’s your responsibility to watch your kid you’re not ‘babysitting'”.