Mum brutally told to 'let it go' and 'stop obsessing' over baby name regret

Picking a name for your child can be difficult and there’s always a chance you might end up regretting it.

One parent has learned this the hard way and claims she has been struggling with baby name regret for the last three years.

The unnamed mum shared her sadness in a post on Mumsnet, telling others how she and her husband had selected their daughter’s name in a rush after she was born and went for one that was a popular choice at the time.

She strongly wishes she’d opted for something a little more unique and is worried her little girl will grow up hating her name because of it.

The mum wrote: “I don’t really know what I’m hoping for from this thread, maybe some advice from anyone that’s been in a similar situation. I basically have always regretted my daughter’s name.

“My husband wouldn’t discuss names before she was born and we ended up choosing something really popular in a rush to name her.

“He then refused to change it when she was tiny which I so so wish we had done.

“She is now three and I still can’t get over it.

“All these threads where people talk about names being overused and boring make me feel guilty. I hate that people will be thinking these things about my lovely daughter and worry she’ll go through life hating her name.”

A woman sitting on the sofa, looking out the window with a sad expression
It’s been three years, but she’s still upset (stock photo)

She added: “I had some fairly unusual names on my list and I wish I had used a more special name that I truly loved. But obviously, she’s far too old to change it now so I’m just not sure how to move on and stop obsessing. Has anyone felt the same and found it got better?”

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People in the comments were quick to repeat the parent’s own words back to her, being brutally honest and urging her to “move on and stop obsessing”.

One person replied: “For every person who says that a certain set of names are overused and boring, there are ten who say they are lovely, classic and popular for a reason. It’s too late to change your daughter’s name. Move on, and maybe think about your husband’s dictatorial tendencies.”

Another said: “I honestly think you need to let it go and definitely stop worrying that others will be thinking badly of it – nobody cares honestly!”

A third commented: “No one will be thinking negatively about it honestly, no one thinks that deeply about it. It sounds like maybe because you felt rushed into the decision that’s making you obsess over it but your daughter is three now, it’s time to let it go.”

What would you do in this situation? Let us know in the comments below.


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