Breastfeeding a baby can help grow the bond between a mother and their child.
It can be a very personal thing, which is why one new mum was left feeling horrified after her 70-year-old mother-in-law revealed that she wanted to give it a go with her grandchild.
In an anonymous post on Reddit’s r/JUSTNOMIL forum, a parent claimed that she had found herself in a very awkward position with her mother-in-law after rejecting the demand.
The post, which has since been removed from the platform, detailed how the older woman wanted to breastfeed her “grandbaby” who is two-months-old and also hoped to “tandem feed” with the sister-in-law’s unborn child.
The mum wrote in her post: “This 70-year-old woman plans to breastfeed [my] sister-in-law’s first baby that’s due in a six weeks. She read that grandmas help breastfeed babies in some cultures and wants to give it a go.
“Now that she’s got this idea that she’s going to breastfeed ‘her grandbaby’, she’s started to come for me saying that she doesn’t want a stronger bond with one baby more than the other (my youngest baby is two months).
“And since he’s already here, she wants to start ‘practising’ breastfeeding with my baby in hopes it goes well and then she can breastfeed both my baby and [my] sister-in-law’s baby.
“She says she wants to breastfeed them at the same time … like her eyes gloss over as if it’s some dream of hers to tandem feed them.”
She continued to say: “I can’t even.
“This woman is a special kind of delusional. Can women that age really even re-lactate?”
The mum said her husband had spoken to his mother and told her they didn’t want her doing this, but the daughter-in-law had gotten all the blame.
“Of course this all falls onto me in her eyes, she’s mad saying I’m standing in the way of her having a closer bond with her grandbabies,” she added.
“I’m the reason. Even though my [husband] was equally grossed out.
“I told her to go talk to her doctor and find a lactation consultant if it’s that important to her, but that she will never ever breastfeed any of my babies no matter what.”
Commenting on the Reddit post, many people agreed that the grandmother had “crossed a line” and said they’d feel “weirded out” by her demand.
One person wrote: “[This woman] is completely justified in being weirded out by the request.”
Another replied: “It’s inappropriate and massively crosses the line. But that should be the case, no matter mother-in-law’s age.”
“That’s just a huge no-no from me! I couldn’t imagine anyone but myself breastfeeding my children, let alone a woman in her 70’s,” proclaimed someone else.
A different user added: “Oh my god. I am absolutely horrified for you. This would be enough to stop any unsupervised visits with nonverbal children for me. There’s no way she is willing to respect that boundary.”
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