Mandozing is the deflating trend of men who bulldoze over women’s expertise and experiences

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Isn’t it lovely when a man asks you if you’ve heard of a thing, when your job or qualifications are pretty much based on said thing?

Or perhaps he likes to gloss over your achievements and use what you’ve said as a segue to his next monologue. Oh, you’re a literature grad? Have you heard of this great writer called Charles Dickens?

If you’ve had your contribution bulldozed by a man who used your comments to turn the conversation right back to himself, then dear friend, you’ve just been mandozed.

Mandozing – a term we here at created – tends to happen to women more than men for some mysterious reason (oh yeah, because the patriarchy perpetuates an entitled sense of self for men, okay, got it).

Unlike mansplaining, which usually begins with ‘well, actually’, mandozing is more about men disregarding what you’ve said entirely rather than attempting to correct it.

A discussion of the concept broke out on Twitter, where cartoonist Maggie Mull recounted telling a male fan of New Yorker cartoons that she creates them.

Instead of applauding her or asking questions about her experience, he mandozed her by dismissing what she had said and continuing with his point, saying: ‘Yeah, anyway, they’re great’.

Well, guy, that was the wrong response. And sadly, many women can relate.

Unfortunately, this happens to a lot of women, particularly high-achieving ones who are making leaps and bounds in their fields.

Their wins can be quickly deflated when a man decides to mandoze, belittling their achievements or expertise.

A fellow creative who writes for comedy animation Bob’s Burgers responded to Maggie’s tweet with her own experience of being mandozed.

She wrote how a weatherman once told her she could write comedy for TV. She told him that’s exactly what she does, to which he simply replied she could.

Mandozing is sort of like unintentional negging. While negging is a deliberate attempt to belittle a person to have them crave your approval, mandozing is about not even caring enough to react accordingly.

The reaction isn’t good or bad, it’s indifference and ignorance.

Ellen, lifestyle editor of, can relate. She says: ‘When I mention I’m a journalist with plenty of experience in, well, the internet, I often find men ignoring my expertise entirely and telling me their thoughts on my profession.

‘They’ll tell me what websites should be doing, their advice on journalism, and will tell me about reporting as if I’ve never read a thing. It’s just a total dismissal.

‘They’re not at all interested in what I can bring to the conversation even if it’s a topic that interests them – they just want a chance to get on their soapbox and show off how great they are.’

The same phenomenon has happened to Jessica, who has worked in PR, finance, and journalism.

She tells us: ‘To be honest, it’s such a commonplace thing for me in so many conversations with men, I don’t even notice it so much anymore.

‘Mansplaining is one thing, but when they don’t even get to the point of acknowledging you and act as if your experience is irrelevant it feels somehow worse.’

It seems to happen across all sectors, and isn’t always carried out by men. Women, too, can look past your experience and just steamroll on with their views.

But as Maggie Mull’s Twitter thread shows, it seems to happen a lot more when women interact with men.

Mandozing comes from a sense that someone’s opinions are more important than someone else’s lived experience or expertise.

It’s another form of male entitlement. Now we have a new word for it.

So, interlocutors, please just listen and give people credit where credit is due or at least react accordingly. If you say something is cool and they say they’ve done that thing, be suitably impressed. It’s the least you can do.

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