When it comes to weddings, working out who makes the cut for the guest list can be difficult.
Normally it’s distant cousins and friends of friends who don’t get an invite, but one bride-to-be has recently revealed she’s undecided whether or not to let her own brother attend her big day.
In a post on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum, the unnamed woman explained that she’s getting married later this year and is concerned that her big bro might steal the spotlight at her wedding.
The 24-year-old claims that her brother is considered a “god” to most of her relatives as he’s “made it” in life and she’s fed up of living in his shadow.
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She said: “I’m getting married in May and have raised the idea that my older brother maybe shouldn’t come.
“The reason is I’d like to have just one day where I can see my extended family and friends without them oohing and ahhing over my brother.
“We live in a really small town and my brother has always been semi-famous because of his accomplishments.”
The bride-to-be went on to explain how her brother attended several prestigious universities, before landing a job on Wall Street and appearing on television each week to talk about finance.
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“He’s not really that impressive by real world standards,” she continued. “But he’s an absolute god in our small, lower class town where I still live with my fiancé.
“Every time he visits our neighbours or family friends will act like he’s the messiah himself.
“I’m happy for him but being in his shadow for so long has made me bitter at always being second best.”
She continued to say that she’d raised the possibility of not inviting him to the wedding with her parents and they were “absolutely against it”.
The bride added that she knew it was “selfish” of her not to invite him, but was hoping that as it is her big day people might be more understanding.
However, fellow Reddit users were anything but understanding and were quick to tell the woman that she was most definitely in the wrong.
One person commented: “You know you are the a**hole hon, so idk why you gotta come here to ask us lol. I’m not even going to go in depth as to why you’re the asshole because you already know.
“You should be proud of your brother and that he is doing big things. Your only issue is that you’re insecure about yourself and jealous, that’s it. Get over yourself please.”
Another said: “You didn’t say anything about him loving the attention or making it about himself. If you just talked to him maybe he can try to redirect peoples attention off him. Like ‘thanks, but today is really about OP. Maybe we can talk tomorrow?’ Something. I don’t know, but you’re not even giving him a chance.”
A third added: “I get that feeling like you are in your brother’s shadow is an uncomfortable emotion to confront. But the impulse to deny him an invitation is borne from envy. Invite your brother. Talk with him about your feelings of being less than or not good enough or not as important. You may be surprised by the outcome.”
