A man left his daughter furious after he missed most of her wedding because he had attended his step-daughter’s instead.
The man, who posted his story anonymously, said that his stepdaughter sent out a save-the-date for her wedding, and then his daughter sent out her own a week later.
The trouble began when he realised they both fell on the same weekend, with the stepdaughter’s wedding taking place a day before the daughter’s, and both had requested that the man walk them down the aisle.
Despite being a 13-hour drive apart, the man thought he could attend both – but after hitting traffic and getting lost on the way, he missed his daughter’s reception and she was instead walked down the aisle by her stepdad.
Sharing the story on Reddit, he posted: “My daughter has always been resentful of my stepdaughter and growing up, we’ve had to deal with a lot of issues related to this resentment.
“The unfortunate reality was that my ex and I had shared custody so naturally, I saw my daughter less then my stepdaughter.
“My stepdaughter’s biological father passed away and I’ve treated her like my own since she was two. I love them both equally and I’ve never shown preferential treatment towards my stepdaughter, something my daughter always accuses me of.”
Knowing that the wedding clash would be an issue, the man said that he tried his hardest to attend both – but fate got in the way.
He continued: “I did the math and I calculated that if I left my stepdaughter’s wedding at 10pm and drove through the night, I’d make it with two hours to freshen up and get ready.
“Unfortunately, I got lost along the way plus traffic and I missed the actual wedding ceremony. My daughter’s stepfather ended up walking her down the aisle by himself.
“I feel like I tried my best to make both my children happy but I failed one of them completely. My stepdaughter and her husband have been attacked on Facebook by my daughter’s friends who is claiming that my stepdaughter planned it on purpose.
“I gave my daughter and son-in-law an additional gift of money to go to Japan, which has always been their dream. It was a lot of money but I hoped it would be a sort of way for me ask forgiveness.
“They had to postpone their trip because of Covid but my daughter refuses to even consider any sort of forgiveness.
“The few times she picks up my calls always ends with her bringing up the wedding and getting angry at me again.
After sharing his story and asking for advice, the man’s post sparked debate but many users were quick to criticise him.
One user posted: “Word of advice – the reason why she isn’t satisfied is because she never wanted the money or expensive gifts she just wanted her dad.
“I feel like this was a pattern for her growing up. I know it was beyond your control and you say there was no favouritism. It probably came off that way.
“You’re not an a**hole for trying to be there for both of them. You’re the a**hole for being blind thinking you can buy her off.”
But another said, conversely: “He can’t split into two and attend two weddings? The daughters planned this horribly. Granted they don’t talk, but still. And some people bring up that he went to the step daughter’s wedding, but that’s only ‘cos it was happening first and then he would drive to the second one.
“He didn’t ‘choose step daughter’, it was just horrible planning from his daughters’ part.”