'I can't keep up with my husband's sex drive but I don't want to disappoint him'

Dear Coleen, My husband and I are both in our early 40s and have two young children.

We have a happy marriage, but I’m finding it hard to keep up with his sex drive.

We both work very hard and family life is busy, but all he wants to do in the evenings and all weekend, is have sex.

Don’t get me wrong, the sex is good, but I just don’t want it that often!

I’m exhausted because of it, but I know at the same time that he loves me and fancies me, so it feels a bit awkward.

Any ideas on what to do?

Coleen says

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to say that you’re exhausted and can’t keep up with him.

Also, it can start to feel routine and like a chore, so you won’t enjoy it and that will start to cause problems in your relationship.

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Coleen Nolan is the Mirror's resident agony aunt
Coleen Nolan is the Mirror’s resident agony aunt

So tell him that while you love having sex with him, you want to have a bit less of it and a bit more romance and intimacy.

If this is a problem for you, then it’s a problem for the relationship.

If you have a good marriage and can discuss things openly then he should understand without taking it personally.

Maybe the fact you haven’t said anything yet is more to do with your own insecurities because you’re worried he might get bored and go somewhere else.

You should be able to tell him what you think without worrying about the consequences.


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