There’s lots of things we want to try and keep from our parents – but sometimes you find yourself a little caught in your lies.
One woman was left with a bit of a difficult situation when her dad got herpes and her mum left because she thought he was cheating on her.
Her parents don’t believe in sex before marriage and she didn’t want them to know that she wasn’t sticking to their rule.
After moving to college and having lots of sex, she got herpes.
She took medication and thought it was fine.
But when she was visiting home a few years later, she secretly used her dad’s razor to shave her pubic hair because she forgot to bring one home.
But a few months later, her mum calls her and tells her that she has left her dad. When she speaks to her dad, he has a rash on his face and tells her that he has herpes but he has no idea how it happened.
Despite it being pretty impossible medically as the virus doesn’t live outside the body for very long, she wants to know if you should tell them about her having the sexually transmitted infection first.
In the post on Reddit, she says: ‘I go to college and it’s not like I’m racking up the kills, but I experiment a little as I was very shy growing up. I also learned that I’m supposed to shave my pubic hair? I never was comfortable talking about sex with my friends growing up so it was news to me.The guy actually didn’t make a big deal of (what my close friend referred to as a bush) it but acted surprised so ended up talking about it. Anyways I started shaving my pubes no big deal.
‘I continued to be somewhat promiscuous and a one night stand turned into be me getting herpes. Awful, but the medication I take now really suppresses my symptoms and makes it very unlikely to pass it to others. Apparently not.
‘Let’s skip to me coming home for Christmas during my 3rd year at school. A boy I had a crush on in high school was going to be at a party I was going to. I was given somewhat late notice and only had a couple hours to get ready. I figure who knows what’s going to happen, but I’ll give all my areas a good touch up.
‘I realize I don’t have any razors at home so I use a disposable one of my father’s. F*CK I’m rushing and I cut myself a little. I go to the party, we don’t hook up, no big deal.’
Using your dad’s razor seems a little gross but the poster didn’t think she had done any harm of course. Until that call from her mum.
She adds: ‘A couple months go by and I get a Skype call from my mom (she refuses to get an iPhone). She’s hysterically crying and she’s moving back to our home country. My parents are getting a divorce. I have no idea what happens but she gets interrupted with another call and says she’ll call me back.
‘My parents have been together since they were both 18 and I’m freaking out. I FaceTime my dad. He answers and his face is covered in a rash. He’s telling me he has herpes, but he never cheated and has no idea how this happened. We talk for awhile and I’m confused and mad and don’t know what to believe.
‘It takes me 2 full weeks to realize this could have been me. By this time my mom has actually flown home to stay with her sister. I start googling things and realize this is a possibility, and that the herpes could have been dormant so he didn’t have symptoms instantly.
‘The dilemma: There’s a lot of moving parts to this. My parents do not think I’m sexually active and it would be a big disappointment to admit this let alone say I have herpes. Maybe my dad cheat I don’t know. Ok he didn’t cheat fuck I have to tell them.
‘Long story short, I tell them, my mom moves back and I didn’t entirely ruin my family. It took a lot more work than this makes it seem but that is how I gave my dad herpes.’
Of course, there is the possibility that it wasn’t her at all and her dad did actually cheat. Or that there is another explanation entirely. According to the NHS, passing herpes on through anything other than skin to skin contact is unlikely.
The virus doesn’t live for very long at all outside the body and they say you can’t catch it from towels, cutlery or cups so it’s pretty unlikely to have been passed on through a razor.
Still, maybe not the best idea to steal someone else’s razor for your pubic hair without them knowing. As other people on Reddit pointed out, the razors are disposable for a reason.