Jana Hocking, the host of a dating podcast, has shared the simple test she came up with when in a relationship to help decide whether it was worth pursuing or time to say goodbye
When it comes to relationships, how do you know if the person you’re seeing is really the one?
And is there really such a thing as the one?!
These are the eternal questions dating experts have pondered over for years and some people believe in the idea of soulmates and such, while others are opposed to monogamy and don’t think we should tie ourselves to just one person.
But if you’re someone who is looking for love and wants to get married, then the host of a dating podcast might have some words of wisdom to share with you.
Jana Hocking, a dating columnist from Australia and host of the news.com.au podcast Kinda Sorta Dating, has shared the two-second test she uses to determine whether the person she’s with is someone she could marry – or someone she should dump.
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Jana refers to this as her ‘marriage test’ and it helps her decide whether the person she’s seeing is a ‘firm yes’ or a ‘hard no’.
Speaking in the most recent episode of Kinda Sorta Dating, she explained how the test works.
She said: “I usually do it after quite a few dates, say three months down the track. I take a good look at the bloke and then imagine myself at the start of the wedding aisle.
“I think to myself, ‘If I arrived at the aisle and looked down to see them waiting for me at the other end, would I light up and be genuinely excited to see them? Would I think to myself How the heck did I get so lucky to marry them? or … Would I just think, OK cool, they seem like a good person, and I reckon I could have a decent life with them, so let’s do this.'”
Jana continues to say: “If it’s the first option, I continue dating them. If it’s the second option, which just seems like settling, I cut it off at the cord.
“The second option doesn’t offer an extraordinary love, it offers a safe love.”
Her guest on that episode of the podcast, Steve Flood, agreed with her marriage theory.
But what do you think of it? Would you give it a go? Let us know in the comments below.