Being 'boring' with your partner is the key to a long relationship, expert says

The start of a new relationship can be full of extravagant dates and romantic gestures as you go all out to an impress a new flame.

As time passes, nights out can slowly be replaced by binge watching Netflix with your significant other as you try to suppress your feelings of intense anger because you can hear them breathing.

If you ever feel the Saturday night guilt of having a quiet night in rather than heading out to show your 300 followers how exciting your life is on Instagram, it turns out it could actually be very good news for your relationship.

Mark Manson, the author of ‘The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F***’, says relationships should be ‘as boring as possible’ to last the test of time.

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He told Business Insider: “That sounds really weird to people but if you think about it, a really happy 80-year-old couple that’s been together for 60 years, the reason that they’ve been together for 60 years, it isn’t because they took all these private jets and they had their crazy vacations and ‘Oh my God, look at their pictures’.

“It’s because they were able to be boring together. They are able to spend year after year, sitting around the house, talking about the same boring stuff, watching TV, watching movies, cooking dinner, and it went fine.

“There was nothing exciting, there’s nothing blowing up, there’s no huge drama and dishes flying.”

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Mark adds that many of us feel pressure not to be viewed as ‘boring’, heightened by social media, but says that what makes someone an interesting and complex person can also be the same traits that make them a ‘really horrible person to be with romantically’.

He says embracing boredom ‘needs to be okay again’, especially in relationships, so there’s no need to feel bad if you’re planning on finishing the new series of You in one sitting this weekend.


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